“Knowing yourself is the hardest thing in the world because nobody lies to you about you more than you do. So if you want to do well, know yourself better”.
I posted the above status on my Social Media profiles today morning and than kept on wondering that this is not complete and need more explanation. Hence came back to make the above statement more meaningful for readers. And may be help readers with step by step solution of knowing yourself better.
In my experience knowing ownself is the biggest challenge people face and usually most of us are in denial mode about ourselves. People gauge themselves wrongly and mostly feel that they are more capable of than what actually they are. They blame other factors for their failures without realising that they failed due to own short comings. Or at times people underestimate themselves and think that they can’t do certain jobs, where in they possess skills to do the same job. This at times happens due to our own fears.
Many a time we find ourselves in a situation and we have no other choice but than overcoming the situation and we fight hard only to realise some of our hidden skills but till that time those skills remain deeply hidden within us. That means opportunity/ situation unearths our hidden skills to emerge as winner. But again in such case we need to develop a personality of a risk taker, so that when a new opportunity comes, we take a plunge in it and don’t keep standing at a side, unsure about our own capability.
Its important that we push ourselves beyond our known capabilities to unearth our true potential and skills. We train and practice ourselves continuously to convert our soft skills into core skills. But all will start with knowing yourself better.
I have devised my own method of knowing myself better, more than 25 years back and have been practicing it since than. It has worked for me and delivered me what I expected from my life and hence probably it will work for you too. I have followed following steps to know myself better:
Day 1: Take three blank sheet of paper and on one sheet write your strengths and on second your weaknesses and on third what you want to achieve in your life or your long term GOALS. Read all 3 sheet minimum 20 times or more, while you keep reading & evaluating each point your wrote on sheets, keep making changes to the lists you prepared in case you want to alter it or think those are not right. But more important is to be honest in what you write. Each time you read the sheets keep asking yourself is this point really right or true?
Day 2: Keep the sheets aside for a day. Revisit the sheets next day. Again read them 10-12 times. Make changes if you feel appropriate.
Day 3: Again read the three sheets and make changes if needed. Now take few more sheet and write what you need to do to achieve your long term goals.Prepare a detailed point wise action plan.
Day 4 & 5: Again read all the sheets minimum 10 times and make changes in it wherever needed.
Day 6: DO the final 4-5 times reading and make more changes. Hopefully if you were honest with the answers you will have the final list of what your are in terms of your strengths, weaknesses, what you want to achieve and how?That means now you know yourself better than day 1 when you started.
But now starts the most critical and difficult part. Know that this the time most people will give up this exercise as useless to them. But if you are not one of them than start working on your each weakness and strength consciously. Make conscious efforts to improve on areas on you are not good at – seek help or guidance, read and practice what you learn everyday. Conscious effort will make you sharpen your skills and practice will train you to bring in the perfection. Train your self hard and practice what you learn consciously everyday, month after month. Contentious practice will bring in excellence and you will gradually notice the difference over a period of time. Always remember “old habit die hard” and changing them is not a easy, you will need to work one each aspect of yours for months or may be more till it starts coming to you naturally. During the process keep motivating yourself and keep cheering yourself to try harder.
So good luck to you all. Take the first step to success.